Are you on a quest to change your lifestyle? I believe it is an inherent act to begin changing our environments when we crave something more or different.
Just think about how much faster you may move forward if you consciously, strategically begin changing multiple environments – personal or business space (physical stuff), mental (thoughts or emotions), social (who you connect with), time (enjoyable, painful) and spiritual space (feeling light, feeling heavy).
What lifestyle do you want? I want to help you live it! That’s why I’ve included 8 Simple and Specific Desires and some Environmental Changes that could be made to help achieve the essence of the want.
Examples of how you can change your environment:
- New parents may start creating spaces that a child will thrive in, allowing the child to help determine what’s best for them as they begin to understand that they have choices.
- Health enthusiast may start changing their eating and exercise habits, starting by changing what’s in the fridge or the sneakers on their feet (unless they enjoy being barefoot, like me!).
- Photographers may start upgrading their equipment, selecting the features that they like to play with best.
- Entrepreneurs may start changing their office environments, so they naturally begin upgrading their productivity and organizational skills.
- Olympic competitors may start changing their mindsets to that of an Olympic champion, who has already won.
Whenever you are trying to change your lifestyle, then letting go of things that don’t support the lifestyle or experiences that you really want, could be one of the fastest ways to catapult you to living the lifestyle sooner than later.
Examples of letting go of things in your environment to create space for the change you want:
- If you want to dress more casual elegant, instead of stuffy professional, then start letting go of the power suits.
- If you want to end your career in the medical field, then take one action that will get you closer to your goal…before you toss out the lab coat or scrubs.
- If you want to make more money, then charge more for your services OR spend your time figuring out a way to spread the word about your services to a larger audience of the people you feel the most joy or passion working with.
Life is as predictable as weather. We can control the weather to an extent, too! It’s true. We can create wind with a fan. We can stop getting wet by raising an umbrella. Pretty cool, huh? We can also instigate as many changes as we want. The next time you want a change, then ask yourself…what is it that I really want? Why do I want that? How can I make it happen sooner, than later? What can I change in my environment to start experiencing the change today?
Change your environment and you’ll probably begin noticing how you start changing things in your life.
Please share this with your community, so more people have the motivation to get one step closer to the lifestyle they want.
A Life Reclaimed: Why I Ditched Self-Esteem for Self-Compassion
Looking for a foundation upon which to build a happy life?
Forget self-esteem. Think self-compassion.
Self-esteem is fickle and unforgiving. It is the worst kind of friend. It loves you when you’re on an achievement roll, but, the moment you hit any kind of road bump, it ditches you and leaves you stranded.
If you’re a self-esteem junkie, you rely on chronic over-achievement to fuel your self-esteem. And you crave another self-esteem hit within seconds of receiving your last. Sadly, the success you achieve through this type of manic effort tastes sour, not sweet. You’re too exhausted to savor the fruits of your own labors. Still, something in your thinking has to shift in order for you to embrace a more life-sustaining alternative to what you have come to know as normal. But once you do, everything changes. Everything.
Choosing self-compassion over self-esteem is about nourishing your soul with real food as opposed to faux food. It’s about practicing self-kindness, embracing the fact that you are human (and understanding where you fit into a universe of other gloriously imperfect humans); no longer fearing those imperfections. It means being as loving and compassionate to yourself as you would be to your nearest, dearest friend. It means opening yourself up to new possibilities to blossom and grow.
It took me more than four decades of less than self-compassionate living, a whole lot of reading, and even more soul-searching to figure this out, which is why I am sharing it with you.
I would like alert you, fellow life traveler, to the fact that there is an alternative to sentencing yourself to decades of overachievement boot camp and the accompanying self-esteem rollercoaster ride.
If you’ve achieved success after success, but success isn’t working for you as a life-sustaining fuel, perhaps it’s time to step off that self-esteem rollercoaster ride once and for all. I did (about six years ago) and my life has never been the same—and I mean that in the most joyful, life-embracing sense of the word. I wish you the same joy I have found since reclaiming my life as you go about reclaiming your own. It is possible.
“Self-Compassion is a Better Predictor than Mindfulness of Symptom Severity and Quality of Life in Mixed Anxiety and Depression”
Use Your Natural Strengths
Choosing your path is often overwhelming, isn’t it? And especially if you’re dealing with a life changing event. Now, you’re supposed to “choose.” Choose a “path.” Sounds difficult, big and overwhelming. And so you get stuck. But you know intuitively that you want to move on.
So how do you choose a path? You don’t. You choose, with the best of your abilities at the time, a step. Just one.
But wow. Getting yourself to the point of making a move, of getting unstuck, of taking that first step sounds difficult, too, right now.
So how do we engage your brain to take a first step? We go with your strengths. Whichever strength of yours you tap into, you want to answer the question: What’s one tiny step I could take to move me forward?” And this is key: Keep making the step smaller until you say “Oh, that’s easy. I can do that.” Here are some practical suggestions.
Are you a highly verbal person?
Love to talk? Enjoy language, books, socializing? Use your strength. Talk with friends, talk to yourself, a voice recorder, write in your journal or gain insights with a coach; talk it through, getting your thoughts out of your head. Clarity comes for the verbal person when she takes it out of her head.
Draw it out. Map it out. Use a whiteboard. Create a Post-it note with one small step on each note. What do you see as a next step? What’s the picture of where you want to get to? What do the steps in between here and there look like?
Movement! Energy! Kinesthetics.
You may have this natural strength if you enjoy movement and speak with words that reflect energy. We can also often hear different levels of energy, depending on how they feel about a topic or a step, in this case. Where do you feel the most energy? What next step would stoke the fires? Rev up the car? Cause you to do dance with great energy? Move you along the path most easily?
Do you typically read about something before starting a new project? You’re going to want to do some research, read a book, blog, or website first. What piece of information would move you forward? What proof or research or expert would you look to? What checklist of steps of decisions you need to make would be useful?
We all have a mixture of strengths and ways we process what’s going on around us. Use your natural strengths to get yourself unstuck so that you can take a step which gets you closer to your new path and your new chapter.
All of this makes choosing a path easier – perhaps not effortless – but easier.
And after this time of change you’ve been going through, isn’t it about time something got a little easier and clearer?